Every serious dater should be equipped with one of these instant messaging programs. Some of these listings are purely for instant messaging software or as I call it 'flirtware' and some are for online party sites which are more flirt zones rather than dating sites. Flirtware can be extremely successful, however it generally seems more suitable for finding brief encounters rather than long term relationships, although this is more than possible too.

How it Works:

You start by downloading one of the free programs listed below. Once you have gone through the registration process, which entails adding details about yourself, you are then able to search for other users on the system, be they currently online or not and by specific criteria that you can specify. Once you have found someone that you like the look of and if they are online (which you can tell) you can send them a message there and then. For men doing this, don't use cheesy chat up lines or overtly sexual openers as believe me it's all been heard before and you will get nowhere. Keep it clean and friendly at first and you will do a lot better, believe me.

Users of dating sites know all too well the types of dating personals they should answer. Such dating personals normally include the people with recent and decent photos, the well-written and concise profiles, and one that clearly states his/her intentions when it comes to a mate and relationships.